How to trade a well-paying job for more work-life balance - without going broke

By Rose Faye

As caregiving demands rise, many professionals are rethinking what success means to them

Stepping back from a well-paying job can be difficult to recover from financially, and parenthood further complicates that choice.

As more millennials and members of Generation X reach the top of their careers, a familiar question is surfacing: When is it worth trading a high-paying role for more time - and a better work-life balance?

For many households, parental obligations are a key driver behind this choice, with the "time versus money" trade-off emerging during the years when income growth and retirement savings are set to accelerate. Professional success no longer equates to upward mobility for many workers, especially when it shifts focus away from their families and personal pursuits like travel, continuing education and wellness.

Our recent Edelman Financial Engines research highlights how widespread this reordering of priorities has become. More than four in 10 Americans say they have turned down a higher-paying career opportunity in favor of preserving personal time. What's more, 63% of Americans say that they would rather never have to worry about their health again than never have to worry about money.

Acknowledging the pressure points - and the 'motherhood penalty'

The playing field for this recent shift, however, is by no means level. Stepping back from a lucrative and rewarding career can be difficult to recover from financially, and parenthood further complicates that choice. It raises the financial and personal stakes for families, as increasing expenses and caregiving demands can make taking time away from work simultaneously more appealing and more difficult to afford.

The years when many couples start having children coincide with a period of mounting financial responsibility, as the average age of first-time mothers has increased to 27.5 years old nationwide, according to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, and is closer to 30 in some states. Salaries that once had to cover only basic savings and discretionary spending are suddenly stretched to absorb childcare, healthcare, housing and retirement contributions.

Even before factoring in children, many households rely on two incomes just to meet the cost of living. That reality often means a reduction in income is not an easy option, if it's an option at all, as household costs and caregiving demands rise.

Another stark disparity exists: Men often have more latitude than women to prioritize personal freedom over pay. Among adults between the ages of 30 and 39, men are significantly more likely than women to say they have turned down higher pay in exchange for more personal time (62% versus 44%).

This is where the "motherhood penalty" emerges. After having children, many women experience slower wage growth and fewer advancement opportunities. The concept of choosing time over money diminishes for mothers who feel unable to pause their careers, even when personal or caregiving demands intensify. This constraint is shaped by broader realities that make money more valuable for women at exactly the moment when time is most needed.

Balancing the scale

My role as a financial planner is to help families make informed financial choices about their lives. If either parent decides to step back from careers in favor of jobs or lifestyles that will make their days more manageable, there are ways to navigate existing financial responsibilities. Choosing time over money doesn't have to be out of reach if you plan accordingly - and establishing good financial habits before making major life changes is a wise start.

That flexibility, however, is not available to everyone. Families that are already struggling to make ends meet may have little room to sacrifice income. For those families, the priority should be to build whatever financial breathing room their circumstances allow and identify workplace or caregiving arrangements that could ease some of the pressure. For those who do have the flexibility to consider a change, establishing good financial habits before making the leap is a wise start.

Here are steps that can help families prepare for a major career pivot:

Establish a rainy-day fund: Having emergency money tucked away can ease the stress of living on less income and shield you from unexpected bills. Ideally, your fund should have enough to cover six to nine months' worth of living expenses. To build your cash reserve, put a portion of your paycheck into your savings account and the rest into your checking account. This is a good first step toward reining in spending.

Start reducing expenses now: List out your monthly expenses and determine what you can cut down on or live without. Depending on your situation, this could mean canceling high-priced memberships or unnecessary subscriptions - or making bigger moves, like selling a second car or downsizing your home.

Lower debt: High-interest debt from credit cards, car loans or student loans can quickly drain any budget and make living on less income untenable. Start paying down that debt while you are still earning a decent income. One approach is the avalanche method: Make minimum payments on all your debts while directing any extra money toward the balance with the highest interest rate, then work your way down to the next-highest rate as each debt is paid off.

Have candid conversations as a family: When deciding who is in the best position to make a trade-off, assess whose career has more flexibility, who can realistically pause and how caregiving is shared. Come up with a plan that ensures the best outcome for both partners.

Protect your retirement savings: Stepping away from the workforce can mean losing access to an employer-sponsored retirement plan and pausing the earnings that build future Social Security benefits. If one partner plans to leave or significantly reduce their time at work, account for that long-term impact on your household budget. For married couples, that could include contributing to a spousal IRA on behalf of the nonworking spouse or setting aside additional retirement savings with both partners' futures in mind.

Making a shift like this requires careful planning. To successfully navigate these decisions, having a clear, long-term financial plan that accounts for investments, taxes, estate planning and insurance is table stakes for getting the balance right.

Rose Faye is director of financial planning at Edelman Financial Engines.

-Rose Faye

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