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UPDATE: This man fathered a child after four dates -- and wants to forget it ever happened

UPDATE: This man fathered a child after four dates -- and wants to forget it ever happened

09/28/2017

By Quentin Fottrell, MarketWatch

His aunt wonders if this child will have any claim on her nephew's estate

Dear Moneyologist,

My nephew became the father of a child after four dates with a woman. He could not imagine a long-term relationship raising a child with a stranger, so he decided not to have any involvement with the child, who has yet to be born. My nephew would like to fall in love and have a family in the future. Will this child have any rights to inheritance?

Concerned Aunt

Dear Aunt,

If you are interested enough in whether this child stands to inherit anything from his/her father, I suggest that you don't stop there. Speak to your nephew about the wisdom and ethics of walking away from a child that had no choice in the circumstances in which he/she was conceived. For your nephew to just walk away beggars belief, but it happens every day. Talk to him about what it means to be a father, even a reluctant one, and his financial responsibilities while he walks the earth rather than making plans for when he has left it.

Walking away can impact that child's entire life. As blogger (http://www.thebrowngothamite.com/) Christopher Persley wrote for The Good Men Project (https://goodmenproject.com/families/thank-dad-absentee-father-unknowingly-influenced-parenting-gmp/), when he met his own father years later: "I wanted was to show him what he missed. I wanted him to know that I was able to thrive. I wanted him to regret his decision to leave. I wanted to be so distant from him that I wanted desperately to change my middle name, which is his first name. I recently came to the conclusion that I am the man I am today because of my father and despite my father. My father unwittingly motivated me."

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