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UPDATE: I give my nanny time off -- should I ask her to do extra babysitting as payback?

UPDATE: I give my nanny time off -- should I ask her to do extra babysitting as payback?

09/25/2017

By Quentin Fottrell, MarketWatch

This father feels uncomfortable asking his nanny, who works over 50 hours per week, to stay late

Dear Moneyologist,

I have a question regarding our nanny. When we hired our nanny, we agreed on a flat weekly rate that was based on 50 hours per week. We also agreed that she would receive two paid weeks off for the year, and major holidays paid off. I think this is pretty standard in New York City.

We also mentioned that since there would be additional days off because of special circumstances, she could make it up with babysitting. We didn't sign anything regarding this or make a big deal about it and, of course, she agreed. We gave her the Monday before July 4 off since we were going out of town, and still paid her, even though technically she would normally only have July 4 off.

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I think she gets plenty of extra days off and, other than one time, we have only asked her to babysit on weeknights, to avoid her having to commute back into the city. We really want her to have her weekends to herself and not feel pressured if we ask.

How is the best way to handle this when it occurs? I don't want her to think we are taking advantage of her, but I also don't want to make it seem "tit-for-tat." That is, I don't want to say "because you had off an extra day last week, can you stay late this week while my wife and I go out?" When she does stay late to babysit, we do send her home in an Uber ($50 to east Brooklyn).

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